do you love yourself?

"You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are … and that’s alright. (They are entitled to their own views and opinions.) You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself and in the process, a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.

You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn’t do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected. You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that it’s not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself and in the process, a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties and in the process, a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness." shawie9877

Learning how to love yourself is all about empowerment. Once you welcome all your true feelings, you become whole and your life becomes holistic. You experience oneness with others. You no longer compulsively search for oneness in the external world, whether with another person, or with a supernatural being (imaginary friend) in a future life. Instead you begin to experience oneness with all beings because once you can love yourself unconditionally, you become capable of loving others unconditionally too.

Action Plan

(1) Accept yourself for who you are and learn to love yourself just as you are;

(2) Accept your feelings and examine them closely so you can understand yourself mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually;

(3) Learn to direct your mind, body and emotions;

(4) Uncover core beliefs leftover from your childhood and replace the negative with positive;

(5) Strengthen your inner self and begin changing what you do not like about yourself;

(6) Witness the change in your self-esteem and self-confidence levels and celebrate your progress;

(7) Allow yourself to accept and others exactly as they are;

(8) Seek common ground but always celebrate differences;

(9) Practice The Four Agreements.

The Four Agreements:

1. Agreement 1 - Be impeccable with your word – Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Agreement 2 - Don’t take anything personally – Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Agreement 3 – Don’t make assumptions – Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Agreement 4 – Always do your best – Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

source: thistimethisspace