Friday, January 22, 2010
JAN 17 — Are you one of those people who spends hours at the computer, trawling the Net for all sorts of information? Participating in forums?
Sharing your point of view and even getting into arguments with other people?
You are? Well, I guess you like your news here and now. And more importantly, you want people to know what you think.
These days we get our news moments after it happens and we can react to it almost just as fast.
In the not so distant past, people wrote letters to the editor (of newspapers)... not email, mind. Real letters.
I imagine the writers of those letters read something in the paper and after thinking about it for a few hours or so, put pen to paper to agree, protest and/or even suggest.
Yes, there is something oddly old-fashioned about letters to the editor. It speaks of a time when people gathered their thoughts and composed their arguments before writing.
I used to think the people who wrote those letters were all retired civil servants (and indeed many of them were) but I found out later that all sorts of people are moved to write. Students, housewives, etc.
While many were allowed to use pseudonyms, they all had to include their real names and very often phone numbers in the letters. And very often, the Op-Ed (opinions-editorial page) editor called them up to verify who they said they were before printing the letters.
But things have changed. Now people read something online and immediately hit the comment box to type out their thoughts. I don’t know about other websites but very often the comments we see here are incoherent and just downright rude.
Some are nothing more than rants, while others are well... personal attacks. I have often wondered why that is so. Maybe after so many years of not being “allowed” to voice out their feelings and opinions, Malaysians have found a way to do so now.
I guess some people treat comments as a “pressure release valve.” They are “just saying only lah”... they don’t really want so-and-so to die. Frankly, if those making comments met the Prime Minister or whoever they are angry with at that point face-to-face, would they repeat what they wrote? To his/her face? In the same vulgar manner?
Maybe I am naive in thinking they won’t. It’s the perceived cloak of anonymity that gives people this sense of bravado, I think. They hide behind it and write all sorts of obscenities and other petty hurtful things.
(By the way, there is this thing called Internet Protocol and really... nobody is that anonymous. If the authorities wanted to, they can find you.)
There is something to be said about taking the time to think of a story or comment... and then writing about it. It’s like this bit of advice an older friend gave me when I told her about my argument with another friend.
“Don’t say something in anger. You will regret it. Give yourself some distance and cool down... then think about what you want to say to her.”
Wise words, those. Maybe that is what we need to do when next we are thinking of writing something.
*The views written here are the personal opinion of the columnist.
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
i was feeling down for these past few weeks, everything just went wrong all at the same time. family, work, friends, yadda yadda. and someone forwarded this to me today and somehow it helped me heal. although i am not a very good Muslim, i must admit, reading this makes me....happy. enjoy :) p/s: sorry if its a bit sensitive.
Some things are beyond planning.
And life doesn't always turn out as planned.
You don't plan for a broken heart.
You don't plan for an autistic child.
You don't plan for spinsterhood.
You don't plan for a lump in your breast.
You plan to be young forever.
You plan to climb the corporate ladder.
You plan to be rich and powerful.
You plan to be acclaimed and successful.
You plan to conquer the universe.
You plan to fall in love - and be loved forever.
You don't plan to be sad.
You don't plan to be hurt.
You don't plan to be broke.
You don't plan to be betrayed.
You don't plan to be alone in this world. You plan to be happy. You don't plan to be shattered .
Sometimes if you work hard enough, you can get what you want. But MOST times, what you want and what you get are two different things.
We, mortals, plan. But so does Allah in the heavens.
Sometimes, it is difficult to understand Allah's plans especially when
His plans are not in consonance with ours.
Often, when He sends us crisis, we turn to Him in anger. True, we cannot choose what Allah wishes us to carry, but we can carry it with courage knowing that He will never abandon us nor send something we cannot cope with.
Sometimes, Allah breaks our spirit to save our soul.
Sometimes, He breaks our heart to make us whole.
Sometimes, He allows pain so we can be stronger.
Sometimes, Allah sends us failure so we can be humble.
Sometimes, He allows illness so we can take better care of ourselves.
And sometimes, Allah takes everything away from us so we can learn the
Friday, January 15, 2010
Thursday, January 14, 2010
One day I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport.
We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us.
My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches!
The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us.
My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was really friendly.
So I asked, 'Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!'
This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call,
'The Law of the Garbage Truck.'
He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment.
As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you. Don't take it personally.
Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets.
The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day.
Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so-
Love the people who treat you right.
Smile and bless the ones who don't .
Life is ten percent what you make it and ninety percent how you take it!
Have a blessed, garbage-free day!
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
I need to start wearing colors to work.
I need to stop dressing like a makcik to work.
I need to shop w a new mind set.
I need to stop skipping stores cuz I think they don't have my size.
I need to stop being scared that stores don't have my size.
I need to think positive.
I need to stop being insecure about my body.
I need to acknowledge the fact that I've lost weight, that I am a person w a normal body size now.
I need to stop making my friends think its okay to make fun of my weight.
I need to make sure that no one, no one, has the power to make me feel ugly ever again.
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
- people lose their sanity as they get older.
- a real man admits his faults.
- a true lady waits. patiently.
- kanye's words provide me emotional comfort. yeah kanye, as in kanye west. listen carefully.
- girls who are too intimidated by me and refrains themselves from being friends w me are plain dumb. your loss, honneh. and heyy, saya tanak laa bf awak. bwekk.
- i can be pretty self absorbed, but i know where i stand too.
- i am an avid worrier. i worry aaaaallll the time. which makes me a very annoying girlfriend.
- i know my boyfriend's friends thinks im crazy and paranoid. and they are right.
- our country's lori sampah is badly engineered. fix it please, mr government.
- i know i dont say this as often as i could, prolly ego always get in the way when i want to say it. but i really really love and appreciate my friends, the ones who keeps me close in their minds. im sorry i dont allocate much time to hang out, cuz as lame as this sounds, i put family first. and boyfriend is family. thank you, for always being there for me.
- ohh btw, thank you so much for reading my blog, readers.
- i hope you all have a nice day ahead :)
Sunday, January 3, 2010
- There is no such thing as a perfect couple. Every couple has their own flaws, secrets, difficulties, etc.
- Communication is the key of happiness. Not money, not trust, not honesty. It's communication. We all know humans are not perfect beings, so a little mistakes here and there is acceptable. Expected, in fact. The most important thing is to discuss about it, argue for a bit and accept.
- Give your best to your loved ones. Give all. There is not point of saving it, give all, egomaniacs.
- If you happen to meet a bear, DO NOT RUN.